A Lesson Learnt
I’ve been on an amazing roller coaster of a year so far. As mentioned in recent posts I will explain more about this when given permission to. I don’t know how this happened but something I have learnt to do the past couple of months even more so is to speak my mind.
Yeah, I can hear some people saying; no big deal I do it all the time. But, for me, it actually is a big thing. I have spent my life keeping my mouth shut, smiling and nodding when inside I want to scream my tits off. Well… no more.
Take Me As You Find Me
I can’t believe I’ve spent all my life doing this. Keeping my mouth shut and for what? To make others feel better? to be instead actually lying because I’m pretending I’m actually ok with someone’s behaviour or words when in fact I’m not. Where do we learn to do this? For god’s sake; I’m 48 wake up woman!
What’s The Worst That Can Happen?
Yes, I will repeat the above – Just what is the worst thing can happen? As long as you are not hurting someone speak your mind. Stop living in a bubble of fear that someone won’t like you if you say something wrong. Getting things wrong is no big deal it’s a life lesson; learn from it and don’t do it again. But; if you feel strongly about something or you don’t agree with something then bloody well say so. I think people will actually admire you for being you, staying true to yourself and being honest. You get nowhere in life pretending to be something or someone you’re not. In fact, most of the time the person who has upset you or made you sigh in despair didn’t realise that they have done so and if they did why should you give a shit anyway.
I think the more you listen to your gut; your spidey senses and then react accordingly the better you will feel about it. I seem to have developed a BIG “bullshit alert button” over recent months and so far it hasn’t proved me wrong. So if I feel it… I’m going to say it…
I mean the worst that can happen is they don’t like your opinion, which is allowed, so just give it. Be honest and be true to yourself. You don’t have to be nasty or hardcore there are ways to be able to speak your mind but be tactful too. Once you start doing it you will find it gets easier and you also feel less stressed because you’ve let it out rather than let it fester inside.
I have to say my self-esteem is a lot better for speaking my mind. It means I’m no longer being someone’s doormat and if I’m not happy I’m going to tell you so. I have learnt to value myself as a human being, as a mother, as a woman. I am stronger than I think, I love deeply, I understand more than you realise, and I will never let anyone drag me down – not ever!
So my Monday Mantra is “speak your mind”.
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Hope you guys had a fantastic weekend and get ready for the snow! I love how Britain comes to a standstill with 1cm of snow.
Love you all