The World Of Online Dating
I had to do this post I really did. I was laying in bed last night thinking of different things I wanted to write about today and this kept popping into my head. I’ve used dating sites on and off for years and if anything peoples profiles are just getting worse. I even find myself talking out loud sometimes because they are that bad, it’s usually a “you’ve got to be joking me” or “oh my fucking god” or “Nooooooo”. So today I’m going to talk about how to write a good dating profile.
So I thought the best way to do this is with a list of do’s and don’ts. So buckle up and remember this is just my personal opinion so please don’t be offended if you are guilty of any of them. Also, these do’s and don’ts apply to women as well as men.
How To Write A Good Dating Profile
Make sure your photos are recent and I’m talking 0-12 months max. There’s nothing worse than talking to someone and then meeting them to find out they look nothing like their 20-year-old photo. It’s just wasting everyone’s time including your own.
Show photos of yourself being happy no one wants to date a misery guts.
Show photos of you out and about if you can as this shows off your personality.
Smile – so many people don’t smile or aren’t smiling in their photos.
Write about your interests and your hobbies whatever they may be.
Have a good think and write about things you are passionate about.
Write about things you want to do in the future and places you want to go and why
Try and get at least one full-length photo in.
Try and include some humour if you can. A sense of humour is important and can make a huge difference in whether someone will message you or not.
It’s ok to write about your likes and dislikes in a prospective partner and the qualities that you find important.
Write a little bit about your intentions as in, are you looking for just casual dates, are you looking for something serious etc.
Try and be as honest and open as you can.
You need to use at least 3 photos of yourself and not all the same. People can look so different in photos so it gives a much better idea of what someone looks like.
Keep your clothes on and don’t use semi-nude photos. It really gives a bad impression.
Be respectful at all times.
Don’t lie about your age. Apart from this being a blatant lie, it will straight away make you sound untrustworthy. If someone can’t even be honest about their age what else can they lie about?
Don’t use photos that are older than a year unless you feel it has relevance or is important to you but make sure that you are honest about it.
Don’t stick your tongue out in photos. I don’t know why people do this as it really isn’t attractive and to be honest, as soon as I see a photo of a tongue sticking out I stop reading the profile or swipe left straight away. I know I’m not the only one who thinks this either so… keep it in your mouth!
Please stop pouting and this goes to both sexes. Just smile – a genuine smile is one of the most beautiful things. You never saw Marilyn Monroe pouting.
Stop taking photos from below so that we get to see the inside of your nose – it’s not nice.
Remove any photos of yourself holding fish. It really isn’t funny or interesting in the slightest. The same goes for just a photo of your dog. It’s the person we are interested in and not your pets.
Don’t use filters such as bunny ears etc it looks ridiculous.
Try and look as natural as possible airbrushing photos to within an inch of a life is a bit of a turn-off.
Don’t use the following phrases: I’m a glass half full person. My children are my world. I like snuggling up on the sofa with a glass of red. I like going for long walks with a pub lunch and an open fire at the end of it.
No partial facial photos – it screams married and makes you look like you have something to hide. Also, 3 photos of just a side profile isn’t going to hack it either.
Don’t use a photo of yourself standing next to someone else’s Porsche it’s so obvious and not impressive.
Don’t use photos of your children – can’t believe people do this.
If you are looking for a serious relationship don’t use photos of just your body it makes you look like a tart.
Don’t just write, “will fill in later” or “blah blah blah” this is a put off straight away. If you can’t be bothered about yourself then why should we?
Don’t let your first message be “Hi” or “Hi there” or “how are you finding the site”. Instead, try and use something from their profile so it looks like you have actually made the effort and read someone’s profile.
If you are using a selfie as a profile picture just look around you and see what is in the background. A urinal isn’t a good backdrop.
If someone actually takes the time to write to you and you send them back a polite thanks but no thanks don’t start insulting them because they don’t think you are a suitable date. This is why a lot of people don’t bother replying at all anymore. Manners cost nothing.
If you are married or living with someone as if you are married please use a dating site that caters for this kind of thing and not dating sites that are used by people who are genuinely looking for a relationship.
If you are looking for just one night stands or casual sex again there are sites that specialise in that kind of thing.
Don’t write to several people at the same time particularly if you are very interested in one person. It starts to become obvious as time goes on and no-one likes to be a second choice.
Any Other Suggestions?
If anyone can think of any more tips please feel free to leave comments below. As I said the above advice relates to women and men.
Oh crikey, I just remembered something that made me smile. I was flicking through Tinder as you do a few days ago and nearly choked on my coffee. I clicked on one profile to see the more information bit. There was only one thing on the profile and it was under “interests” and it said ‘Tracey Ward Lifestyle Blogger’ I couldn’t believe it I had to re-read it as I thought I was imagining it. Once it sank in I swiped right as I thought he looked ok and he obviously found me interesting in some way but did we match? Nope lol I can’t even match with people interested in me how bad is that. It seriously made me laugh. I did crop out his face on the screenshot I didn’t want to embarrass the poor bloke.
Dating sites just seem so brutal now, swipe left and right as if you are in a sweet shop. I think people have lost the art of chatting other people up. We are so used to hiding behind screens, phones, profiles, and some more than others live in an imaginary world. I can’t actually remember the last time I got chatted up outside. Oh actually, tell a lie I can. It was when I was dressed up as Dusty Pillows The Old Cleaning Lady. Some old bloke thought he’d pulled; he must have been 85 bless him.
Right time for a cuppa for me.
Catch you soon