As seen on ITV's The Fast Fix: Diabetes – Author of A Darker Shade of Blue, It's Not Rocket Science Reverse Your Type 2 Diabetes and Become A Better Version Of Yourself and others. Tracey is also a Reflexologist, Aromatherapist, Reiki Practitioner, founder of Harrogate Black Dog (a support group for people struggling with mental health), and artist.
It’s been a while since I wrote my last blog post and a lot has been going on. As you know we have had lots of lockdowns which has resulted in me having to put my business on hold; which has been extremely frustrating as it was just getting started and I managed to turn it into a not-for-profit CIC (2 weeks before the first lockdown). But one of the positive things that have happened since my last post is my book launch of A Darker Shade of Blue.
Book Launch Of A Darker Shade Of Blue
I took the time during lockdown to finish putting my book together; “A Darker Shade of Blue”. For those of you who do not know I have been compiling a collection of poems from people struggling with their mental health and also by the loved ones of people struggling. It has been a very emotional ride but one of the most rewarding. Being able to give people a voice is so important; raising awareness is key.
So the book was finished several months ago and is now available on Amazon both as a paperback and also on Kindle. I will warn you now; it’s emotional but beautiful and I feel honoured and humbled that people were wanting to help me on this mission and to the people that donated a poem I am truly grateful.
For people who would like to purchase a copy, you can find the link here.
Now available as Kindle and Paperback via Amazon
I really do not want to close the business Karma Times, as it is something I am passionate about. I am currently working for someone who has given me a wonderful opportunity, an all-expenses-paid job working out in St Lucia which I couldn’t refuse and there is the possibility that this will lead to turning Karma Times into Charity status; which is my ultimate dream. Whether I do this from this side of the ocean or the other will remain to be seen. But either way, I will make sure I have the most amazing team to run it and I will continue to carry on working in the background and also go back to giving 1 to 1 treatments etc.
My next blog post will be all about my time here so far in St Lucia and will share some incredible photos with you. I’ve so missed writing my posts.
Life has changed immeasurably in the past few weeks and months. We are all dealing with uncertainty. Fear, doubt, financial concerns, and family stresses sow the seeds of anxiety. As Donna Booth explains, our need to contribute, combined with a growing sense of helplessness, often causes anxiety to spiral. It’s essential to take a moment or two for yourself to get everything back under control. So today I am going to share with you 3 ways of coping with anxiety.
3 ways of coping with anxiety
Deep Breathing
Deep breathing is excellent for bringing your attention out of your head and into your body and helping you to manage emotions. You can do it anywhere, at any time, without people noticing.
Sit comfortably and place one hand on your belly. Imagine there is a balloon in your belly and imagine filling the balloon with your inhalation. You should notice the hand on your belly rise. Don’t worry if it is your chest that rises first, the more you practice, the easier it will be. Hold the air in your lungs, and then exhale slowly. The secret is to go slow: Time the inhalation (4 seconds), pause (2 seconds), and exhalation (6 seconds). Practice this for 3-5 minutes.
Progressive muscle relaxation
By tensing and relaxing the muscles throughout your body, you can achieve a deep feeling of relaxation. This exercise helps you recognise where in your body you are holding tension.
Sit back or lie down in a comfortable position. Follow the instructions below, tensing each body part for about 10 seconds. Notice how the feeling of relaxation differs from the feeling of tension.
Feet – Curl your toes tightly into your fee, then release.
Calves – Point then flex your feet, then relax.
Thighs – Squeeze your thighs together tightly, then relax.
Torso – Suck in your tummy as if you were trying to touch your spine, then relax.
Back – Squeeze your shoulder blades together, then relax.
Shoulders – Scrunch your shoulders up to your ears, then drop them.
Arms – make fists and squeeze to your shoulders, then drop them.
Hands – Make a fist by curling your fingers into your palm, then stretch your fingers wide and relax.
Face – Scrunch your facial features as if you were trying to get them to meet in the middle of your face, then relax.
Full body – Squeeze all muscles together, then release the tension. Deep breath in, deep breath out.
Using Your Senses
This exercise brings you back into the moment. It can be done very quickly, or you can take a little more time on each sense.
Notice five things that you can see. Look all around to take in all your surroundings. Look for small details you would usually miss.
Notice four sounds that you can hear. Listen closely to everything around you and further away.
Now three things that you can feel. Think of how the air feels on your skin, and how your clothes feel on your body.
Notice two things you can smell. What scents are present? What does the air smell like? Take some time to appreciate the sents.
And finally, one thing you can taste. Do you have something you can eat or can you taste the air or the inside of your mouth?Above all, make sure you take time for yourself, don’t feel you must use this time to do ‘all the things’. Pause, breathe, take care of yourself, be with your loved ones, and give yourself time to consider the parts of your life that you want to carry forward into your new future.
I hope you enjoyed this blog post, 3 ways of coping with anxiety and I will be writing about many others in the future so make sure you hit subscribe so that you don’t miss any of them. Thank you for reading.
I read an extremely interesting article by Dr. Stuart J. Eisendrath, which I am going to share with you today about using the power of mindfulness to alleviate depression. Stuart Eisendrath is the founder of the University of California San Francisco Depression Center. Dr Eisendrath pioneered research into the therapeutic effects of mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT) on people experiencing clinical depression. In his new book, he outlines an easy-to-implement MBCT program that has been scientifically proven in a US National Institute of Health study to bring relief to chronic sufferers of depression by helping them realise that their thoughts are not their reality.
Treatment-Resistant Depression
A 2018 article in the British Medical Journal suggested that between 10% and 30% of those in the UK who suffer depression – which could mean as many as 2.7 million people – have treatment-resistant depression. Those with TRD will have tried at least two antidepressant drugs without a positive outcome. Yet, there are non-drug treatments that can be equally, or more effective than antidepressants and do not carry these risks associated with withdrawal.
Our minds are particularly good at thinking, problem-solving, worrying, judging, and analysing. Yet, when it comes to depression these skills are often not in your best interest. If you suffer from depression, memories and thoughts tend to be biased toward the negative, which diminishes your problem-solving abilities. This may lead to misinterpretations, inaccurate assessments, and inappropriate decision making.
For example…
Take Carol, who was walking down the street and waved to her friend across the road. Her friend didn’t wave back and Carol felt rejected, worried she’d offended her friend, and was depressed. Actually, her friend has been studying an important business e-mail on her phone and hadn’t even noticed Carol.
Sam thought of refusing a promotion because he thought his boss was setting him up to fail rather than having confidence in his ability to handle the new position. Such an approach could have severe consequences for his career.
Using the power of mindfulness to alleviate depression
A key step in coping with such thoughts is trying to decide if such situations are facts or just thoughts. Mindfulness gives you the space to look at the situation from multiple perspectives and without judgment. Then you can decide how to respond to the situation skillfully. You can evaluate your thoughts in several ways. One is to hold back on acting on a thought while you gather more data to assess whether the thought is a valid one. Another way of assessing a thought is to ask yourself how you feel in thinking it. If you feel more depressed, there is a very good chance the thought is being driven by depression.
The critical voice of depression
Once, I was teaching a beginner’s class in meditation. One woman said, “I can’t meditate as well as everybody else here.” This is one of the most common thoughts of beginning meditators. Then several other members of the group expressed a similar idea about themselves. I asked them how they knew this, and as we assessed the situation, it became clear that such a thought was based more in the critical voice of depression rather than being a fact. Since none of the members had had any prior experience with meditation, it would be unreasonable to expect anyone to be better than anybody else. Moreover, meditation is not competitive. It’s about being present, not about doing something better or worse than someone else.
As the beginners discovered, this is a valuable lesson about how our minds generate negative and unduly critical thoughts. We need to label them as such and bring the attention back to a neutral object like our breath. When we can recognise such thoughts for what they were, we don’t feel compelled to act on them by doing something such as dropping the class.
Rely on your observing self
The observing self can help you see what is being generated by your mind and assess how you feel, both physically and emotionally. You then become capable of extending compassion to yourself and others.
If we expect that we can stop our minds from generating negative thoughts through meditation, we will be disappointed by our limitations. Our minds wander on their own, and our trying to control them makes them want to wander even more. In fact, experiments have shown that efforts to suppress thoughts actually intensify them. If you want to suppress a thought, you actually have to push off against the thought, which intensifies the thought you are trying to suppress.
Our minds are always trying to explain events. That is what our minds do and are built for: trying to organise and understand information. We have the need to try to conceptualise what is happening and to build hypotheses from an early age. Initially, an infant sees patterns of black and white on a page, then becomes able to organise the black and white areas and recognise letters and words.
Similarly, we all organise events and pieces of information into stories we create and construct. When we do not understand something, we still try to organise it to fill in the blanks. We create stories, plots, and themes. In depression, this is often based on how we are feeling. Our emotional state can generate negative thoughts just as much as negative thoughts can generate a depressive state. You can actually step back and observe yourself generating thoughts.
Try This: Observing Yourself think
Close your eyes and focus on your breath for a minute or so.
Once your mind has steadied, take note of the thoughts that emerge over the next few minutes that tend to distract you from your breath. Ask yourself, “What is (fill in your name) thinking?” Notice what thoughts are emerging.
Ask again: “What is (fill in your name) thinking?” See what thoughts come up. Then bring your attention back to the room.
The observing self was the self who was taking note of your thoughts. That self was watching your thoughts emerge. The observing self notices what you are thinking and feeling. Afterward, you might say, “I noticed my mind having a thought about (fill in the subject).” You might also say, “I noticed my mind producing depressive thoughts that then shifted my mood.”
There are some great apps you can use for mindfulness and the best two that jump to mind are, “Calm” and “Headspace”. These are also great for beginners to meditation and mindfulness and have free versions.
I will be doing physical guided meditation sessions very soon so watch this space.
So how can we make the world a kinder place? The answer is definitely easier than you think. There’s a comfort in knowing that people are there for you and willing to help. Little acts of kindness mean we have a caring community and everyone has a better day. Kindness is reciprocal. One kind act tends to lead to another, which has a cumulative effect on wellbeing and happiness.
Kindness is not something we often think about, or really value as a society. Sometimes altruism is seen as weakness, when, in fact, there’s a strength and resilience in kindness. Nor is it about smug, self-satisfied do-gooders. Kind people reach out and touch the lives of others. In an increasingly harsh world, filled with criticism, pressures to conform to an unachievable standard, and online trolling, we all need to try to be a little kinder to ourselves and those around us. Kindness is its own reward.
How can we make the world a better place?
Here are some ideas for little acts of kindness that may lift the spirits of those on the receiving end and boost your own wellbeing.
Be kind at work
Volunteer an hour of your time to help a colleague who is running behind once a month.
Bring in cake, coffee, or some healthy snacks once a month, or go out for a meal or drinks with your colleagues.
Send an e-mail letting a colleague or a supplier know what a great job they’re doing.
Make an effort to learn something new about a co-worker.
Assume the best in others. If someone is running late or has cancelled an appointment, don’t assume they’re trying to get out of something or annoy you.
If you can know a great therapist, tradesperson, designer, accountant etc recommend them to others and provide referrals.
Help Someone Who Needs It
Be kind to those around you
Compliment someone on their shoes, hair, smile, anything really.
Let someone out into traffic, or stop so a pedestrian can cross the road ahead of you.
Hold the door open for someone or make the lift wait for them.
If you have things you no longer want, offer them for free on a local recycling group, or donate them to a charity shop so someone else can benefit from them.
If someone gives you good service, write to the company praising them.
If you’ve always wanted to learn something, look for a local skill-sharing organisation.
If you’re popping to the shops, check if an elderly neighbour needs anything.
Give up your seat on the bus, underground, or train to someone who looks like they need it more.
Do nice things and don’t tell anyone about it.
Help a lost tourist or give someone directions.
If your parking ticket is still valid, leave it on the machine for someone else to use.
Be kind to your friends
Write and send a handwritten thank-you note when you receive a gift or someone does something you appreciate.
Don’t just text. Pick up the phone and arrange to meet up for a chat over lunch or a coffee.
Send a copy of an old photo and reminisce about old times.
Try to find some good in a friend’s partner you dislike.
Bake a birthday cake.
Comment positively on social media.
If a friend is organising an event, make a point of going to support them.
Be kind to your family
If you have the space and time, adopt a rescue animal from a charity. It’s great for wellbeing, fabulous for kids too. If you live in the city, cats who’ve previously had cat flu can be a good option as they need to stay indoors. Rescue centers have everything from snakes and lizards to rabbits, guinea pigs, hens, and horses.
Pause before speaking angrily to someone and consider what you’re really angry about. Try to reframe your comments in a positive way.
Tell your parents that you love them and appreciate all they have done for you.
Take a tip from Frozen and just Let it Go.
Create a family happy book. Gather all your good memories and thoughts into one place.
Catch up with nieces or nephews over Skype or FaceTime.
Have people over for lunch or dinner once a month.
Be kind to your significant other
Tell them you love them and why you think they are so special.
Pick up their chores every now and again if you know they are stressed.
Be a good listener, rather than an advisor.
Don’t nag, but work together to find another way to get something done.
Give them a big hug at least once a day.
Tell them you missed them.
Have a regular date night.
Made a special day for them, filled with their favourite food, activities, and tickets to a concert or the cinema. (COVID permitting).
Snuggle on the couch while watching TV.
Respect them and don’t make decisions that should have their input without consulting them.
Be kind to yourself
Make time for yourself each day. Self-care is important.
Treat yourself to a day off and spend it doing things you love, but never have time to do. Visit a gallery, have a long lie, watch an old movie, read a book, be creative, a walk-in nature…
Forgive yourself for past mistakes and make amends to those you have hurt.
Be an optimist.
Get a plant for your office or buy yourself some flowers.
Now think of the ripple effect these little actions would have on the community? Join me and start that ripple today…
I’d love to know how many people make this as one of their New Year Resolutions. I’ve lost count how many years I’ve said that and stuck to it. The only time I reached that goal was when I took part in The Fast Fix using Exante meal replacement products. As said in my previous post I’ve had a bit of a break from dieting, counting calories, etc over the past six months for various reasons.
To be honest, I’m sick to death of chocolate and the indulgences you have over Christmas; I feel yuck, bloated, sluggish actually I feel like a slug! I actually can’t wait until New Years Day to get stuck in with my shakes – I’ve actually really missed them. If it was up to me I’d start them now but I know readers are taking part from New Years Day so I will be joining them with their journey.
I will be doing a variety of posts to help motivate. I had a lot on my old website but because of the computer hacker, I lost so much work. But I’m going to think of it as a fresh start. So if you want to join me please do. If you are doing the Exante diet please click here to visit their site. They have various offers on and there is also my exclusive code of TRACEY35 to get 35% off your shop.
2. Walking The Dog For Longer
My second resolution is to take Harvey Houdini, my trusty canine sidekick, on longer walks. This is for two reasons it’s good for him and it will be good for me. Exercise even 30 minutes a day (which can even be two lots of 15 minutes) It’s the total that is important. So if you have a dog and you walk him or her once change it to twice. If you already do it twice do each one for 5 minutes longer etc.
Harvey Houdini
Those minutes quickly add up and also being out in nature and some sun or fresh air works wonders. If you did watch The Fast Fix you might remember the effect of 5 minutes gentle walking every hour had absolutely amazing effects on lowering our blood sugar.
2. Successful Business
I decided to change my direction in life in 2018. Sick and tired of working in an office for someone else I decided to re-train and work for myself. This is one of the best decisions I have ever made. I’m doing what I love every single day and also get to meet some amazing people along the way.
So hopefully by this time next year, I will have a full client list. I am now a qualified complementary therapist so I provide Reiki treatments, reflexology, aromatherapy, and massage. I am also currently on a Level 3 nail technician course so that I can provide manicures, pedicures and nail enhancements.
I have a business website which you can find here. My daughter has also taken her first step into her business and has become a micro-blading technician and you can find her business page here. One day it would be nice to have our own clinic to work from. Maybe that can be next year’s resolution.
3. House De-Clutter
As if I’ve not got enough to do already I need to add de-clutter the house on the list definitely. I can’t believe how much junk I seem to collect and struggle to throw away. I need a serious de-clutter. The last time I did it I felt as if I had a great weight lifted off my shoulders. It might be easier with a flame thrower but it needs doing. I’d hire a skip but I know the cheeky bastards on my street would fill it when I was asleep so it might be a man and a van job. Either way, it’s getting done. Then next it will be re-decorating; can’t wait for that (not).
4. Publish the Poetry Anthology
I am in the process of putting together an anthology; a collection of poems written by people who suffer from mental health and also by the loved ones of people that suffer. This is to raise awareness. The title of the book will be called “A Darker Shade of Blue”. I would also like to set up a social enterprise or not-for-profit organisation to provide complementary therapies to people in emotional crisis.
God this list could go on forever. Maybe my next post will be a 2020 “to-do list”.
For everyone who has made some resolutions good luck and please feel free to share some with us.
It’s been far too long since my last post but I have been super busy; mainly with college related things. So thought I’d get the old trusty laptop out and now it is the perfect time for an update.
I have been working like mad on practising reflexology as I have 100 treatments to complete to become a qualified practitioner but it is going great guns. Also, I have also found a fantastic little treatment room to work from and to use to build up my clientele and to practice from.
I must say I thought I would hate working with feet. My initial view was that I would study it as it is part of the course but won’t use it very often. My views have now completely changed I actually really love it. It keeps surprising me as I learn new things. There is definitely a correlation between peoples feet and their physical health. As an example, this week I gave a mini reflexology to a lovely lady and there were so many crystals etc in the intestine and bowel area and nowhere else. As it turned out she is waiting for a bowel operation.
Aromatherapy is something else I am really excited by. We are learning how to do consultations and make products for individuals. The first product I made for myself and I absolutely fell in love with it. My daughter bought me a very expensive face moisturiser for Christmas but the one I made myself is far superior and the benefits have been incredible. I’m not buying any others I’m going to be making my own from now on.
Essential oils are something I’ve been using and interested in for absolutely years but it is great to now be studying to become a qualified aromatherapist and I love the thought of being able to make products for individuals.
As well as making my own products I have become a consultant for Neal’s Yard. The quality of their essential oils and ingredients are just outstanding. So I will be using their essential oils etc to make my products. They also sell ready-made products for people who don’t want to have a personal aromatherapy consultation and I can highly recommend them. In fact, if you click here it will take you to my Neal’s Yard Consultation page where you can see for yourself.
Not only have I nearly finished my level 3 which makes me qualified I have decided to study level 4 in September; that’s how much I enjoy it.
The changes I have seen in people when receiving therapies has been mindblowing. It is because of this I am wanting to invite corporate sponsorship to enable me to do this. I have an interview with a reporter on Monday to discuss this further as they will be running a story for me. I also have a story coming up in the FHT (Federation of Holistic Therapists) International Summer magazine which I’m really happy about. There will be a lot more coming out about this shortly. I might also have a launch night in the not too distant future and will write about this nearer the time.
Also, it is the BIG 50 this year and my daughter told me she is going to take me on holiday abroad; which will be my first in over 20 years. Because of this, I’m going back on The Fast Fix Exante dietto lose a few pounds before I go. I think I’ve put a stone on since Christmas so need to shift it ready for the beach as I don’t want Green Peace trying to throw me into the sea.
For anyone interested in knowing more about the therapies I do please click here.
I shall keep you up to date with postings from now on and let you know how the weight loss is going, how college is going, and how a lot of other things are going. Oh you lucky lucky people you ;o)
Today I am going to share with you 10 ways to grow your own happiness. Are you struggling to shake off that gloomy feeling, or constantly shifting between cheerful highs and sorrowful lows? In the past you may have looked for a distraction to snap you out of a bad mood, reached for the chocolate or, if all else had failed, resorted to antidepressants. But if you find it hard to feel positive about life, the good news is that you can train yourself to be happier.
New studies suggest happiness isn’t just a product of a stable childhood or a naturally sunny disposition – it’s closely linked with the physical structure of the brain, which is something that can be changed.
Researchers from Kyoto University, Japan, have found those who rate themselves as happy have more grey matter in a part of the brain called the precuneus. Not only do these people experience happiness more strongly, they feel sadness less intensely and are able to find a deeper meaning in life. And previous research has found it’s possible to increase grey matter in this area of the brain – meaning that no matter what’s happening in your life, you can develop your own happiness, rather like strengthening a muscle.
If you’re wondering why you should bother, our mood can dictate everything in our lives, from whether we’re able to form good relationships to how healthy we are.
One key activity that has been shown to help change the brain is meditation. Studies have found that regular mediators alter the structure and function of their brains – an effect known as neuroplasticity. As a result of years of meditation practice, French Buddhist monk Matthieu Ricard was shown to have increased activity in the left prefrontal cortex area of the brain, which is linked to positive feelings.
Ricard, author of Happiness: A Guide To Developing Life’s Most Important Skill, recommends meditating for 20 minutes every day. ‘Start by simply paying attention to the sensations of your breath going in and out,’ he advises. ‘If your mind wanders, which it will, bring it back to your breath.’
As you get used to this, you can use the same principles throughout the day whenever your worries start to get on top of you. When you notice yourself drifting from the present moment, you focus instead on feelings of hot or cold, or sounds around you. It’s all about consistency, though. ‘Regular practice is needed – it’s like watering a plant,’ said Ricard.
While meditation is an essential happiness skill, building contentment is also about doing lots of small things each day to lift your mood and cultivate positive feelings. Of course this won’t guarantee permanent joy, but getting into the happiness habit can act as a buffer against life’s difficulties, helping you bounce back when things are tough and allowing you to enjoy the good times to the maximum.
Yuna Ferguson, assistant professor of psychology at Pennsylvania State University Shenango, USA, champions the idea of using meditation and other methods to enhance your mood. But she offers a word of caution about constantly asking yourself: ‘Am I happy yet?’ She says: ‘Rather than focusing on how much happiness they’ve gained and doing a kind of mental calculation, people could focus more on enjoying their experience of the journey towards happiness and not get hung up on the destination.’
To actively improve your mood, try out these 10 exercises, remembering to enjoy yourself on the your journey to thinking yourself happy.
10 Ways To Grow Your Own Happiness
Let Go Of Your Expectations
Often, the big things we think will make us happy actually don’t, argues Professor Paul Dolan, government wellbeing adviser and author of Happiness By Design. for example, parents report that bringing up children gives life more meaning, but it doesn’t actually lead to higher happiness levels. Similarly, money can’t buy you joy.
So forget about concentrating on what you believe will make you happier overall. Professor Dolan says it’s more about paying closer attention to what brings you pleasure in each moment. ‘We’re happier if we are focusing on the person we’re with, and the thing we’re doing right now.’
You could get the most out of family life by enjoying a Sunday afternoon out with the kids – and staying closely in the moment rather than worrying about the next week at work. If you’re playing with your pet, concentrate on the game instead of shaking a toy half-heartedly while watching TV. Whatever you’re doing, you’ll get more from it if you give it your full attention.
Turn Negatives Into Positives
Our thoughts control our moods, so it’s worth trying to transform a negative mindset into a positive one. ‘Positivity affects everything from how quickly we recover from an operation to how long we live – the positive among us live longer,’ says Rachel Kelly, who wrote Walking On Sunshine, to share the strategies that keep her upbeat after suffering from depression.
But how can you be more optimistic if you’re naturally a glass-half-empty type? According to Kelly, the first step to improving your mood is to simply notice your negative thoughts. It’s easy to allow them to spiral downwards, so make an effort to become more aware of any negative patterns.
‘Next realise these thoughts aren’t facts. It’s worth questioning them because many turn out to be false assumptions,’ she says. If you can’t successfully challenge a negative thought, accept it while breathing in. When you breathe out, try to find a more positive way of viewing the situation or issue. For example, if you’re feeling anxious that you’re going to argue again with your partner, tell yourself that if a row does kick off, you’re going to listen as well as talk calmly – the disagreement could actually end up being positive. Whenever you do this, the old neural pathways in the brain that process negative ways of thinking begin to fade and are replaced by positive ones.
Be Thankful
One study found people who write down the things they’re grateful for on a regular basis feel more optimistic, exercise more and visit their GP less. The “three good things” exercise is a handy tool,’ says Rachel Kelly. “As you wind down for the night, think of three positive things that happened that day.
The more detailed and specific you can be, the better. Reflect on each one how it made you feel.’ Tell your partner how much you appreciate them too. Research shows that when people take time to express gratitude for their partner, they also feel more comfortable airing concerns and this can make the relationship healthier.
Write Your Gratitude List Every Day
Do Something Kind
Doing something thoughtful for someone else is a proven way to boost your own happiness. The reason being it can help give your life meaning and purpose, and draw your focus away from your own problems. To get the most benefits, Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project, advises against random acts of kindness such as buying a coffee for the person behind you in the queue.
While you might get a short-lived kick out of this sort of act, doing something another person truly benefits from gives you a deeper feeling of contentment because it genuinely helps them. ‘Its more productive to target someone who’s in need of a little more help,’ says Rubin. ‘Help a colleague even when you’re rushing to meet a deadline yourself, or go out of your way to assist an overwhelmed parent who is juggling toddlers and shopping bags.’
Help Someone Who Needs It
Act Upbeat
If you can’t shrug off that bleak mood, act as if you feel cheerful. First, put on a smile – research has shown smiling, even when you’re faking it, helps you feel more relaxed. And the more you can perfect a genuine-looking smile, the better – that means grinning so the smile reaches your eyes. A study at the University of Kansas, USA, asked people to hold chopsticks horizontally in their mouths (try grinning and holding a pencil horizontally in your teeth), which resulted in them moving their facial muscles to mimic a smile. These people were better able to cope with challenging tasks afterwards. This is because your brain is constantly monitoring your body to see how you’re feeling, which includes scanning facial expressions.
As well as painting a smile on your face, Professor Sir Cary Cooper, a psychologist and wellbeing expert, suggests that you can trigger a good mood. He says, ‘wear your favourite clothes on ordinary days and don’t save them just for special occasions. Put on bright colours and talk about cheerful things. This can make a difference and help you feel more upbeat.’
Smile
Clear Your Clutter
It’s been proven that being surrounded by clutter has a powerfully negative effect on your mood, according to research by neuroscientists in the USA. The mistake many of us make, says Gretchen Rubin, is saving up for one big tidy. ‘Mess makes it harder to focus and can leave you irritable,’ she says. ‘Instead, you need to de-clutter on a regular basis. Whenever you have a spare minute, clear a shelf or a kitchen drawer.
If you’re standing around waiting for the kettle to boil or your toast to pop out use the time to see what you could clear up – even small things like a recycling of junk mail, putting away teabags or hanging up a coat can make a big difference. Get rid of anything that isn’t beautiful or useful, too’.
Have a De-Clutter
Connect Physically
It can be tempting to stay in touch by email or social media, but it’s no replacement for seeing friends in person. Plenty of studies have shown the happiest people spend more time socialising. And that doesn’t just mean having nights out with lots of pals – spending quality time with your partner is also important. Make the effort to snuggle up, even if you’ve been together for years, because frequent hugs can boost levels of the love hormone oxytocin, which encourages feelings of intimacy and closeness.
Making small connections with others throughout the day is also beneficial, easing stress and boosting contentment, says Professor Cooper. ‘Smile at people in the street, chat to bus drivers and people who serve you in supermarkets,’ he says. ‘This kind of everyday interaction can give you a lift.’
Do What You Love
For me this is an obvious one to add to my 10 ways to grow your own happiness and have been saying this for so long. Having a hobby that absorbs you is an important way to get sources of stress into perspective and boost contentment,’ says Professor Cooper. A study at the University of British Columbia, Canada, found people who spent time pursuing their passions were happier than those who prioritised their job.
So leave work on time and do something you enjoy. ‘One of your hobbies should be an exercise you really like,’ says Rachel Kelly. ‘I feel more alive when I live in my body as well as my mind,’ she adds. So instead of focusing on what it is you can do to lose weight or get fit, find something you really look forward to, whether that’s dancing swimming or running.
Do Something You Love
Toast To Good News
We often see a harsher version of ourselves than is the reality. So to give yourself perspective, be more attentive to your good points. Notice your achievements – at the end of each day, note down what you’ve done well, whether that’s completing admin that has been hanging over you, getting to the gym despite feeling tired, or lending an ear to a friend who’s having a hard time. This will build you self-esteem so you feel more in control.
When it comes to the bigger bits of good news, like getting a promotion or plucking up the confidence to ask a friend out on a date, allow yourself to acknowledge it by telling others – research shows those who share good news are happier and more satisfied with life. By choosing the most enthusiastic friends to tell you’ll get a more positive response, which will reinforce your own satisfaction.
Get Musical
Listening to upbeat music you like really can life your spirits. Studies at the University of Missouri, USA , found listening to positive music daily for two weeks lightened people’s moods in the short-term and boosted their overall happiness. There’s no other stimulation like music to arouse the brain,’ says Professor Paul Dolan. Make music part of your daily life – put it on when you’re getting ready in the morning, exercising or whenever you need a lift. Having a musical soundtrack to your day will help you feel amazing.
Listen to Music
I hope you found 10 ways to grow your happiness of interest. I’m going to start applying these to my life; let me know how you get on if you do the same but remember it won’t happen overnight. This is something to be worked on, on a daily basis.
If you would like to add your own items to my 10 ways to grow your happiness – please leave them below.
Yes it’s that time again I haven’t done this in ages. A little sneaky peek behind the scenes. Don’t hold your breath though it’s not very exciting but here we go:
Love these little beauties. Made out of ground almonds instead of flour. I will be putting the recipe on my keto website soon. As you know I’m on a diet (aren’t we all) not only to lose weight but to help my fibromyalgia symptoms. I miss biscuits with coffee but I can make these beauties and then I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything.
Photo 2 – Keto Packed Lunch For College
College Packed Keto Lunch
Now I know carrots are a bit carby but they aren’t too bad as long as they are in moderation. So I had a few shavings of carrots for a bit of extra crunch mixed with baby spinach, chinese leaf lettuce, rocket, watercress, kale, tomatoes, spring onion, cress and cucumber with leftover chicken from the night before. As you can see I also had fresh coconut and a homemade salad dressing of Avocado Oil, Extra-Virgin Olive Oil, MCT oil, Balsamic Vinegar with a little bit of freshly ground Pink Himalayan salt and black pepper – Have to say it was delicious. There was still some chicken left over so had the same thing again today.
Photo 3 – Back of Sewing Pattern
Sewing pattern
I’ve been inspired to get my sewing machine out again after watching The Sewing Bee (one of my favourite programmes and so glad it’s back on air). So I’ve been looking at patterns and this I took so I could see how much material I needed. I’ll update you with the progress of this item I can’t wait to get started on it.
Now I made this for my daughter. She is always at the gym and she likes to have a smoothie afterwards. So I made her this out of Exante chocolate meal replacement shake, 1 tbsp of collagen powder, egg white protein powder, a banana and 1 tbsp of peanut butter powder and she loves it! You can find the Exante chocolate shake here. Also for my new readers you can get 35% off Exante diet meal replacement meals by using my exclusive code TRACEY35 which is fantastic.
Photo 5 – My Son’s Baby Tortoise
My Son’s Baby Tortoise’s
I can’t remember the names of these little guys but I find them fascinating. This photo was taken on Mothers Day at his home when they were out having a bit of a run around well as much as a tortoise can do.
Photo 6 – Shepherds Pie with Cauliflower Mash
Shepherds Pie In The Making with Cauliflower Mash
Yep food again you know me only too well. I know there are carrots in there but again they are ok in moderation on a keto diet. We are potato free in my house now and they have been replaced by mashed cauliflower which is fantastic even my daughter loves it.
Photo 7 – Prepping For College
Prepping For A Massage
I’m not sure why I took this and I don’t even remember doing it but this is where I study complementary therapies and a fantastic place it is too. I think that may be Amanda’s backside you can see on the left. Shall have to let her know that her butt is on the web.
Photo 8 – My Eldest When He Was Studying Drama
My Eldest
Found this recently and was so happy because I thought I’d lost it. This is my eldest when he was studying drama. This is one of the photos I took with me on The Fast Fix Documentary and had in my room. So proud of him and also of all my children. So lovely to see them growing and making their own way in life. Sometimes I wish I could do it all again, I miss holding them in my arms and holding them close. I’d do it now but I don’t think they would appreciate it. So all of you out there with little ones cuddle them as much as you can while you can.
Photo 9 – Importance of Play Time
Important Message
I found this the other day and wanted to share it. I have been saying for as long as I can remember how important it is to play. To let go – To have fun – to celebrate your inner child. Life is too short and play keeps you alive. For instance for me it is being creative whether that is writing poetry, painting, drawing, sewing a dress, playing with the dog, it can be so many things but whatever it is that makes your heart sing do it and then do it some more!
Photo 10 – Something That Made Me Smile
Made Me Smile
I think this will appeal to my hippy type friends. You can’t beat a bit of sage.
Photo 11 – Face of Fibromyalgia
Face of Fibromyalgia
One of the worst conditions and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. It’s about time they made cannabis oil legal. People are suffering unnecessarily in this country and I find it appalling. Children having over 100 seizures a day being denied something that will give them their life back but instead we fill them with hundreds of drugs just to fill the fat cat pharmaceuticals pockets.
Photo 12 – Harvey Houdini My Trusty Canine Sidekick
Harvey Houdini
He’s still going strong bless him. Found his place next to me in bed. Not sure what would happen if I ever did manage to find a bloke they would have to fight over it.
Photo 13 – I’m Crap At Technology
Crap At Technology
This was me trying to ask Siri something but instead managed to take a screen shot. I can’t believe after all this time I still haven’t got the hang of it – no smart remarks 🙂
Photo 15 – My Dream (please come true)
I Need This In My Garden
I desperately want to get my garden sorted so I can have one of these in it. I’d be out there all the time. I’d also use it for massaging clients too. So if anyone wants to help me sort out the garden (a lot needs doing) you can get free massages afterwards.
There you go I hope they weren’t too boring for you.
Happiness is a habit that we have to practice on a daily basis. Life is full of uncertainty, fear, and struggle; but we can cultivate a practice that brings out the true joy living inside us at all times
Be happy
It doesn’t matter what your age is or how much money you have in your bank account, your marital status or what you do for a living, we all want to be more successful in our lives. Of course, defining success is different for each us, but here are proven ways that can make you more productive, happy and successful in life.
Please feel free to share this list, add to it, and make it your own. Happiness is a habit that we have to practice on a daily basis. Life is full of uncertainty, fear, and struggle; but we can cultivate a practice that brings out the true joy living inside us at all times. These practices will make us more resilient and allow us to bounce back with more ease and grace from life’s challenges.
64 Tips for Living a Happy Life Starting Right Now
Be committed
No matter what goals you have set for yourself in life, you have to be committed. It’s through commitment that you’ll continue to make the improvements needed to better yourself. Whether it’s taking a chance on launching a startup, getting a gym membership to improve your physical well being, or taking a cooking class because you want to become a chef, commitment is what drives us all to become more successful.
People care about you; not your success
Let’s be honest. People don’t care about the expensive clothes you wear, how big is the house you own or the car your drive. That’s not to say that they don’t respect your achievements or possessions. Instead, they care for you as an individual and they’ll support you no matter what — because they love you. Believe it!
Be grateful everyday
According to researchers Martin Seligman, Robert Emmons, and Michael McCullough, being grateful can result in feeling better about your life, more enthusiastism and more willingness to help others. Being grateful may even reduce coronary artery disease. Take the time to write down what you’re grateful each and every day.
Money can’t buy happiness
As The Beatles famously proclaimed, (money), “can’t buy me love.” You know what else money can’t buy? Happiness. Just because you’re earning six figures doesn’t mean that you’re necessarily content. Sure, money is obviously needed, and it makes some things easier. But, you should be focusing on your passion and not how much your paycheck is.
Don’t take rejection personally
At some point we all face rejection. Instead of taking it personally, use it as a learning experience. Why did a someone reject your proposal? Maybe there wasn’t a market for your product. Perhaps you didn’t have a convincing pitch. Maybe the their partner just called and said he’d spent their extra cash. Accepting and learning from rejection is one way to guide you to success. Learn from rejection and use it as motivation to make things bettter!
Have a backup plan
You never know when the unexpected is going to happen, but when it does happen, you’re surrounded by chaos. Being prepared for the worst case scenario can at least make things a whole lot less chaotic.
Travel
As Yii-Huei Phang states on The Huffington Post, traveling is a great way to “develop a person’s character” and become more open-minded. Additionally, while traveling is a great way to get away from the daily grind, it also helps you appreciate what you have back at home.
Don’t multitask
If you’re feeling constantly burnt out it’s probably because you’re doing too much at one time. Research has found that “when you switch away from a primary task to do something else, you’re increasing the time it takes to finish that task by an average of 25 percent.” You’re also burning your reservoir of energy. Both of these issues decrease your productivity and prevent you from accomplishing tasks and goal.
Embrace a growth mindset
Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck argues that we have two-mindsets; “fixed” and “growth.” A fixed mindset “assumes that our character, intelligence, and creative ability are static.” A “growth mindset,” however, “thrives on challenge and sees failure not as evidence of unintelligence but as a heartening springboard for growth and for stretching our existing abilities.”
Balance work and life
When work interferes with life, it can result in employees getting burned out and decreases base morale in the office. While this may not be an option for employees, it proves that everyone needs time away from the office. If you’re able to spend less time in the office by working remotely or having flexible hours, you should be able to be productive in both your personal and professional life.
Don’t hold grudges
There is really no need to hold onto a grudge. It can mentally wear you out and makes you miserable. And, doesn’t life seem to go a whole lot smoother when you’re not angry?
Stick it out
After years of studying both children and adults, psychologist Angela Duckworth found that one of the characteristics of successful individuals is having grit. During her TED talk Duckworth stated, “Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term goals. Grit is having stamina. Grit is sticking with your future, day in, day out, not just for the week, not just for the month, but for years, and working really hard to make that future a reality. Grit is living life like it’s a marathon, not a sprint.”
Live in the moment
You can’t change the past and you have no control of the future. Live in the moment and enjoy what’s in front of you right here, right now. When you’re busy making too many plans, you’re causing stress that prevents you from enjoying the present.
Take care of yourself, then help others
According to Mark Snyder, a psychologist and head of the Center for the Study of the Individual and Society at the University of Minnesota, “People who volunteer tend to have higher self-esteem, psychological well-being, and happiness.”
Additionally, helping others is beneficial for our health. But, how can you help others if you haven’t taken care of yourself first? Take care of your needs first and then begin to help others.
Giving: Do Things for Others
Give sincere compliments often. You can easily lift someone’s spirits by complimenting their work, attitude, style, or anything else you genuinely find remarkable. Not only will it help them but it will help you be seen as a person who is uplifting and nice to have around.
Say thank you to the supermarket cashier, coffee barista, taxi driver, or anyone else who makes your life easier.
Write a thank you letter to someone.
Hold the door open for the person behind you.
Carry a Homeless Care Bag in your car and hand it out when you see someone in need.
Relating: Connect With Others
Say “I love you” to someone you love.
Give someone a hug.
Tell your co-worker how much you appreciate the work she/he does. Be specific.
Have device-free lunch and dinner time with co-workers and family. Each person agrees to turn off their devices and have a meal connecting with only the people at the table.
Exercise: Take Care of Your Body
Take a walk and smile at everyone you pass.
Do 20 Jumping Jacks. This easy, do-anywhere exercise is sure to give you a quick energy boost and get the blood flowing. It also helps get creative juices flowing, so it’s a great break to take during work or when feeling stuck on a project.
Do a headstand. Headstands are a great way to flush fresh blood, oxygen and nutrients to the brain.
Take the stairs instead of the lift or escalator.
Go for a bike ride, walk or hike with a friend. Getting outside in nature has a restorative effect on the psyche. Research shows that just 15 minutes of walking in a park or forest increased feelings of vitality and relaxation.
Awareness: Live Life Mindfully
Smell the flowers and while you’re there count the number of petals they have. Really notice the beauty nature provides us.
Watch the sunrise or sunset. Remember that no matter how difficult things get, the sun will rise again tomorrow.
Light a candle or fire and watch how mesmerizing the flames can be.
Eat an orange mindfully (or raisin, piece of chocolate, anything you have on hand).
Marvel at the all tasks your body performs automatically without you having to tell it anything. Breathing, feeling, digesting, thinking, yawning, blinking, sweating, shivering….how many can you come up with?
Trying Out: Keep Learning New Things
Ask more questions. Keeping your mind open to the marvels of the world is fuel for your imagination.
Visit a museum or historical site in your town or city.
Try a new sport, yoga class, or activity in your area. Studies have shown that learning a new sport increases the volume of gray matter in parts of the brain responsible for motor movement.
Learn to draw, play an instrument, cook a new meal, or learn a language. Learning helps build self-confidence and feeds creativity.
Teach what you already know. Teaching others forces you to take a new perspective and often leads to deeper understanding.
Direction: Have Goals to Look Forward to
Plan a trip. Having a holiday on the horizon builds the excitement of anticipation.
Create a Weekly Ritual. Rituals provide stability and comfort while also connecting you to the present moment. If your ritual includes others, such as family movie night, it becomes a great way to connect and nurture relationships.
Sign up for an event that you have to train for, like a mud run or a triathlon — bonus points for doing it with a group. The sense of accomplishment that comes with completing a goal after months of training is one of the greatest happiness boosters I know of. It builds confidence in all areas of life.
Break down larger goals into small, attainable actions that move you towards your goal. Have a weekly check in to make sure you are on track.
Find a mentor, coach, or teacher who can help guide you and hold you accountable.
Resilience: Find Ways to Bounce Back
Listen to your favorite happy song at full blast and sing it loud!
Meditate. This is a great way to build strength of mind, heart, and spirit. If you’re new to meditation start with just one minute of focusing on your breath coming in and out. When you get distracted (and you will), just begin again.
Smile. Studies have shown that the body can trick the brain into thinking it’s happy by flexing the zygomatic major muscle, which is the smiling muscle. So when you’re feeling blue, turn up the corners of your mouth and your brain will get the signal to be happy.
Be curious. Rather than judging setbacks or disappointments as bad or failures, approach them with curiosity, like a scientist. Figure out how you could improve for next time. Use everything as a learning experience and you will always be moving forward.
Lean into the pain. This may seem counterintuitive, but a lot of our struggle comes from the resistance we use to avoid being uncomfortable. Often times, once we open up to the pain, sadness, fear, etc., we release the power it has over us and see it as the temporary state it truly is.
Emotions: Look for What’s Good
Keep a daily gratitude journal. Each day write 3–5 things that happened that you are grateful for.
Make a Gratitude Board. This can be a chalkboard, white board, bulletin board, any type of board, that you can write or post things you are grateful for. Keep it somewhere that you see often so it serves as a reminder of how much you have to be happy about.
Make a practice of sharing the best moment of your day with family or friends at dinner each night. Knowing that you have to come up with something good that happened each night will train your brain to look for the good things in your day.
Know what makes you happy and do more of it. Does dancing put you in a good mood? Then make a point to dance a little each day.
Visit the Soul Pancake website. They create inspiring, heartwarming, uplifting, and humorous content guaranteed to put a smile on your face.
Acceptance: Be Comfortable With Who You Are
Practice loving-kindness meditation. This type of meditation cultivates the awareness that happiness is accessible to us at all times.
Notice what your self-talk is like. Are you constantly criticizing and judging yourself? If so, try talking to yourself the way you would talk to a friend or loved one.
Have an open mind. The more accepting you are of yourself, the less you care what others think. This allows you to open your mind and broaden your horizons.
Challenge yourself. Step outside your comfort zone once in awhile and you will begin to grow exponentially. This can be as big or small as you like. I like to say each day I will do at least one thing a little more, or a little better.
Nurture yourself. Get a massage, go to a spa, take a warm bath.
Meaning: Be Part of Something Bigger
Volunteer. Whether your thing is teaching underprivileged kids, visiting the elderly, or helping clean up the environment, there are numerous ways to volunteer your time and feel part of a community.
Visit the planetarium. It’s amazing what learning about the solar system does for putting things in perspective. Even gazing at the night sky can have inspire feelings of deep connection.
Join a community group. Whether it is social activism or a recreational sport team, getting together with people in your community will make you feel a deeper connection to the world around you.
Adopt a pet. There are an abundance of domestic animals that need loving homes. Having another living thing that is dependent on you brings deeper meaning to your life.
Plant a garden. Tending to a plant, especially one that you will eat, creates an appreciation for the nourishment the soil can provide and a deeper respect for Mother Earth.
And there you have it, some of my tips for cultivating a happy life. I hope they provide some inspiration and motivation to discover your own best ways to live a happier and more meaningful life.
Everyone should do a bucket list and check it on a regular basis. In this post I suggest ways of creating your own alongside making my own list.
Time to get out the pen and paper
Having lost all my last 3 years posts I thought I would start a new bucket list. I think it is so important to have things to aim for, wishes to accomplish, challenges taken on and won; I would rather be like that than just plodding along meaninglessly and too far laid back to the point of being horizontal. But that’s just me.
What’s A Bucket List?
If you have never heard of the term “bucket list”, it is a list of all the goals you want to achieve, dreams you want to fulfill, and life experiences you wish to experience before you die.
Why Create A Bucket List?
if you don’t live your days by goals and plans, chances are that you spend most of your time caught in a flurry of day-to-day activities. Ever felt that your days are passing you by without any tangible output? What did you accomplish in the past month? What are your goals for the next three months? Look at the things that you have been doing and the things that you’re planning to do next – do they mean anything to you if you are to die today? Having a bucket list reminds you of what’s really important to you so that you can act on them.
Even if you live by goals or to-do lists, they are probably framed with a social context, e.g. performacne, career, health. A bucket list opens up the context for you life. It’s a list to identify everything you’ve ever wanted to do, whether it’s big or small, purposeful or random.
Things to do and places to visit
It’s just like planning all the highlights for YOUR life. Even though I already set goals by default, I still found many new things to do while writing my own list. It was an incredibly insightful exercise. What’s more, coming up with my list gave me new-found enthusiasm knowing what I have planned ahead for my life!
The objective of creating this list isn’t to create some fear-based mentality toward death. I don’t see our existence to be limited to our physical years on Earth – our physical lifespan is but a short speck of our existence in the universe. The whole point of creating a bucket list is to maximize every moment of your existence and live our life to the fullest.
The Universe
It’s a reminder of all the things we want to achieve in our time on Earth so that instead of spending our time on pointless things, we direct it toward things that matter to us.
Time For A New Bucket List
Get Into That Size 12 Jeans Before I Am 50 In June
This has been on my list for as long as I can remember. With my birthday being in June I’d better pull my finger out big time! But to be honest I think I’d settle for a small 14. For me health is more important than waist size.
Start Up With A New Gym Membership
When my daughter started working at a local gym I stopped going to my regular gym and let the renewal lapse as I wasn’t keen on going on my own. Now my daughter has been there over 3 months I am now allowed to have free membership. So fingers crossed, this is going to be addressed this month. I will have to start slow as I am out of practice but slow is better than stop.
Learn To Swim
Again I am sure this was on my last bucket list. I would love to be able to swim and get rid of my fear of water. Swimming would be an exercise much better suited to my health problems; i.e. fibromyalgia etc. So I need to look into the new gym membership when I get it and see if they do lessons there; if they don’t then I will have them somewhere else.
Learn to swim
Sort Out My Garden
My garden wasn’t used at all last year. It is far too big for me to look after on my own. I would love to get it sorted and made nice. If I had the money I would love to have a garden room for my arts and crafts and sewing and also growing my own veg. I did about 5 years ago grow my own runner beans, and courgettes etc and loved it. It was so nice to just go into the garden and pick your own vegetables and eat it the same day.
Wish this was my garden
Make My Own Clothes
I bought my sewing machine about 7 years ago and loved using it. As space became a minimum it got put to one side and I have not used it for far too long. I would really like to get into making clothes for myself and also things like soft furnishings etc. Maybe even printing my own fabric. It is something that I would really like to get some more lessons in. I just love the idea of making something to wear; something that is unique and a one-off that fits my personality.
Sewing Machine
Level 4 Complementary Therapies
I am in the process of studying level 3 and would like to further my education even more and maybe go for a level 4. The other thing I am considering is a course in complimentary therapies for palliative care and end of life. I have worked as a carer in the care industry and do have some experience with end of life. Although sad it is extremely rewarding knowing that you have made someones last hours as comfortable as you possibly can for everyone involved.
I did consider for a long time a career in nursing but the nurses I have talked to over the years are more and more dissatisfied and unhappy with the situations they are currently working in. So for me being hands on with a client is extremely important and being able to actually physically “care” for someone is integral to my beliefs.
Journey On The Orient Express
I would love to have a trip on this train. The food looks exquisite but when I think of The Orient Express I think of romance, Agatha Christie, elegance, beautiful scenery and a trip back in time almost.
Write A Bestselling Book
Well I have written a few books now one of which did quite well but I want to push myself and take this much further. I am in the process of learning and studying very hard and when I get to where I want to be there will be a book coming out alongside of it. I am also compiling as you know a book; an anthology of poems written by people suffering from mental health issues and also by the loved ones of people who suffer. So without giving too much else away I have quite a few books in the pipeline. Also a big one which I start next January and will take me over a year to put together but I’m sure it will be worth it.
Have My Own Horse
Now I know I’m clutching at straws with this one I can’t afford a skateboard let alone a horse but I absolutely adore horses. They are such a magical and spiritual animal. I don’t know what it is but when I see one I have an overwhelming urge to touch it; to stroke its neck and feel the soft velvet skin around his mouth. Having volunteered at a disabled riding group years ago I saw first hand the unbelievably amazing effect horses had on the disabled riders. I won’t lie the first time I saw it I cried.
Horse
Live On The Coast
I have wanted to live on the coast for so long I can’t remember. I am sure I am not the only who feels like that but when I am by the sea I feel a great sense of peace and calm come over me and I’m in my own little bubble. I love Whitby and I love Bembridge on the Isle of Wight and could live at these places quite easily. For me I would love to be able to fall asleep at night listening to the waves. Ideally I would prefer a sea view but then wouldn’t we all. A little place with not many neighbours with a quiet sandy beach, my dog running around on it and you never know maybe ride my horse and feel the wind in my hair.
Get Married
Yep… I would like to get married one day. The problem is though I need to find someone to marry first and that is proving quite difficult. I don’t think there are many eligible men around in Harrogate or men that like me that is. I may have to resort to running over some poor unsuspecting man in a supermarket vegetable isle. So watch this space you may see me appearing on Crimewatch in the not too distant future.
Have An Orchard
As well as vegetables I would love to have my own fruit trees. I already have an apple tree which my mother bought me one year for Christmas. So I have to say if I ever move house my apple tree is coming with me. I’d love to have more apple trees, pear trees, plum trees; all sorts. Also berries, strawberries, blackberries, raspberries. As you can see I don’t want much do I?
Be My Own Boss
I’m working on this and I can feel it is becoming more and more of a reality. I’m not giving up; tenacious is my middle name. So there is Karma Times on the horizon. Karma Times has been a name I have had in my head and my heart for so many years now and I know that has been important to me. Finally I’ve found the niche that this now fits and the path I am on is the right one. I would like to specialise in relaxation, anti-stress, anxiety and depression; also chronic health conditions which are quite often linked.
Make My Own Brand Products
I have made a start with this with the aromatherapy wax tarts and will be adding to this continuously. All my products will be items that are good for the soul and also be part of Karma Times. They will cover a wide variety of things so watch out for those too. So currently there is Karma Times the complementary therapy website and a Karma Times Etsy shop which sells my jewellery products. At some point in the future the two may possibly merge but I haven’t decided yet. It may be that the Etsy will be just jewellery and the other products will be on the therapy site.
Karma Times Wax Melts
Get A Camper Van
I seriously want a camper van. I can’t think of anything better than on a Friday packing up the van and just to travel around the coast visiting different places.
Get My Own Chickens
I would love to have a little farm-yard but I’d settle for chickens. If it was up to me I would have chickens, a little goat or two, maybe a Shetland pony or even a donkey or two. I’d be in dungarees and wellies everyday I’d be in my element.
My Own Art Studio, Craft Room, Sewing Room, Silversmithing Studio
I have so many creative ideas going through my head it’s unbelievable and I want to have a go at all of them while I can. The only problem is being creative costs money. But.. this is a bucket list and also a list of dreams and we all need dreams. And.. sometimes dreams come true!
Go On Some Betty’s Cookery Courses
I think I would enjoy going on cookery courses. I definitely would like to study nutrition and do a series of cookery books. (I’m working on this currently).
Set Up A Charity or Social Enterprise
I have been thinking about this for a while but even more so in recent months when I have seen the effect of giving free complementary therapies to people in the support group I set up. The difference has been gobsmackingly amazing. I wouldn’t have believed it unless I had seen it for myself.
The sad thing is though the people who need and would greatly benefit from complementary therapies can’t often afford them. This is why I have been giving free ones to people I know would benefit. It also got me thinking more seriously about the charity. I would like to be able to provide complementary therapies to people in emotional crisis. I want to do this. I need to do this.
Have My Own Business Premises
I guess this could be linked to the charity. Either way I would at some point like my own business premises and employ other therapists on the same mission as myself and that is to make a difference. I don’t want to be targeting the luxury market I want to target the people like myself, the people who need these therapies but can’t afford them.
I want a business that can treat the person as a whole. Address both physical health and emotional heath so incorporate mindfulness, coaching, counselling, therapies, creativity, nutrition, group meetings, outings etc for the local community. Then hopefully one day being able to set more of these centers up to help other communities.
It would be fantastic to be able at some point to provide an environment, a safe place for people in crisis where they can stay for a few days to access all the services and to leave feeling loved, cared for and with hope.
Face My Fears And Be A TED Speaker
I can’t think of anything worse than standing in front of a huge amount of people and talk about something and be able to keep their attention. It must be an incredible feeling to be able to do that but one hell of a scary one. I do love TED if you haven’t seen any yet head over to their site here.
Visit Historical Places
I love history particularly the Tudors. I would love to visit Hampton Court, The Tower of London and Hever Castle (the childhood home of Ann Boleyn). I would also like to visit the Palace of Versailles at some point. The one place I do love is Osborne House on the Isle of Wight; the home of Queen Victoria. There is something so beautiful about that building and the settings.
Osborne House
I do love a good castle too. So I think I need to find a man who fancies doing it with me. I would also like to visit the pyramids of Egypt, Mexico etc.
Shark Cage
I would be scared to death but I would love to be brave enough to do this. To see a great white in its natural habitat must be such a jaw dropping occasion. I’d be terrified but what an exhilarating thing to do.
Learn To Play The Piano
I would love to learn a musical instrument. I grew up with my granddad playing his harmonica and loved watching him. I love the sound of the piano so that would be really cool. I’d like to touch a harp too; it’s not something I’d want to play but I’d like to have a go on one.
Ride In A Gondola In Venice
I would love to go to Venice and ride in a gondola especially with the one I love. How romantic would that be? It looks like such a beautiful place so this is definitely going in my bucket list. It’s an art lovers paradise.
Go Glamping
I loved camping as a kid in fact I still do but haven’t done it in a few years. I would like to upgrade though and go glamping. I still want to sleep under the canvas and stars but in a better bed. To be honest I wouldn’t mind having my own large tippee or yurt in my garden; I’d love that. It would be a great place to chill out.
Have A Go At Writing Your Own
If you don’t have a bucket list, I highly recommend you to create one. how much will it cost? Absolutely zero! How long will it take? Probably 30 minutes or so or even an hour, more if you get really caught up in the process of it all. What do you stand to gain? Significant clarity in what you want from life. It’s an invaluable exchange if you think about it.
If you already have a bucket list, take this opportunity to review it. See if there are new items you want to add-on. if so, add them in. check if all the items listed are still relevant. If not then remove them. Set a reminder on your calendar to look at it every 3 months or 6 months.
Where Do I Start?
Now take your pen and paper out or open up a text document and type it. Read the following questions and then start writing what pops in your head.
What if you were to die tomorrow? What would you wish you could do before you die?
What would you do if you hand unlimited time, money and resources?
What have you always wanted to do but have not done yet?
any countries, places or locations you want to visit?
What are your biggest goals and dreams?
What do you want to see in person?
What achievements do you want to have?
What experiences do you want to have/feel?
Any special moments you want to witness?
What activities or skills do you want to learn or try out?
What are the most important things you can ever do?
What would you like to say/do together with other people? People you Love? Family? Friends?
Any specific individuals (celebrities, famous people, world leaders) you want to meet in person?
What do you want to achieve in the different areas of your life: Social, love, family, career, finance, health (your weight, fitness level), spiritual?
What do you need to do to live a life of greatest meaning as defined by you?
Come up with as many items as you can
The items should be things you have not done yet. Don’t stop until you have at lease 101 things! If you find yourself stuck, chances are you are mentally limiting yourself. Release those shackles – your bucket list is meant to be a list of everything you want to achieve, do, see, feel and experience in your life.
As you can see I don’t have 101 things on my own bucket list yet but I have only just started. If you follow my blog you will see me update this on a regular basis and will hear about the things I’ve done when I get to tick them off.
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