Life Is Precious
So 10 things I believe in. We all have things we believe in. I know I do and I am going to share with you 10 things I believe in today. Now you don’t have to share my beliefs we are all individuals and that is what makes us unique.
Can you imagine being surrounded by people that thought the exact thing that you do, in everything… how boring would that be. I absolutely love hearing other peoples opinions on things I don’t have to agree with them because that is my right just as it is for them to believe it in the first place. So I shall put pen to paper so to speak and make my list of the 10 things I believe in.
1. Physical touch has healing power on so many levels – I am on my own a lot these days part of the empty nest I recently spoke of. I crave physical touch, someone to hold my hand, give me a big bear hug, stroke my hair. It grounds you instantly, but you connect with their energy and you become one for however long it is, but then it still ripples out when they have let go part of it stays with you.
I bet if you did a survey on the street and asked people if they would like a hug I bet the majority of them would say yes and they would see a difference in themselves afterwards.
I remember my time working in the care industry. Some of the elderly people I cared for were unable to speak, move, eat for themselves etc. Now whenever I had time which wasn’t often enough, I would visit these residents and sit with them and talk and sometimes hold their hands, stroke their hair which we were told off for doing I might add. That could be the only human touch of genuine kindness that they had experienced for days, weeks even. Other than assistance with washing etc.
One lady, (I remember whose name I obviously can’t reveal) she was so tiny, so frail, she never spoke, she had no family who visited, she had to be moved with a hoist in and out of bed and her wheelchair. I watched this go on and on. No one was interacting with her and she used to hit out and I’m not surprised. She is me and she is you. She had a life, she was in love and married in her life, had children, etc. And most importantly she was still that person but trapped inside a body that would no longer work. But she was still the same person. How alone would you feel in that position?
It was my job to get her to bed, freshened up etc ready for the night. I always took my time (which my colleagues didn’t like). I would explain everything that I was doing and would do it as gently as I could. She watched me silently the whole time. I held her hand and talked to her about a whole manner of things knowing she would not be able to join in. But I talked to her as if she could.
I let go of her hand to pull the bed covers up and as I was doing so she lifted her arm and stroked my hair and smiled at me. No words passed but the look in her eyes and her hand gently in my hair has stayed with me ever since and I left that room with tears in my eyes. I have so many humbling memories that I could tell you about my time in the care industry. I am so privileged to have had these experiences and to have met these people who changed me and changed my life for the better.
2. Karma – I seriously believe that if you do good you will receive good. Whether it is in this lifetime in the form of instant karma or in another. You reap what you so. I guess this is why I tend to forgive people a lot more than I used to. Apart from letting go of any negativity inside yourself, they will receive what they are due at a time when they need it to learn for themselves. Revenge is a negative quality and is pointless the only person it hurts is yourself you darken your own soul. You need to get that soul light shining not darkening.
3. Inner beauty is more important than outer beauty. A 70-year-old woman can be far more beautiful than her 30-year-old counterpart. Living a life of kindness, empathy and compassion will radiate as beauty from within. Selfishness, jealousy, vanity are ugly traits and it doesn’t matter how pretty you are you will always come across as ugly.
4. I believe in small moments -each positive, humbling, inspirational, interaction or situation I have in life is like one of the most beautiful pearls I have ever seen. Natural, organic and precious. Made out of a minuscule bit of grit, the coating builds up and around over time and turns it into something magical. All these magical beautiful pearls are then strung together to form a necklace that you wear with pride and with love for your entire life. Another reminder of this for me is a Trollbead I have on my bracelet, it is a wheel of small buttons which is there to remind me that it’s the little things that keep the big things together.
5. I believe in laughter. I mean a really good belly laugh that hurts your face but you can’t stop. The type where you make silly noises or snort or both. A laugh like that gives you a natural high like no other and to share that with someone else is pretty damn amazing. I have had many of these particularly with my daughter and I treasure every one of them.
6. I believe that writing has saved my life and given me purpose – I have mentioned this or touched on it briefly before. As some of you know this year I published a book of poems. These poems saved my life. I wrote a lot of them when I was at my lowest and I never intended to publish them. When I had written the first one I realised how much better and more in control I felt in myself. It eradicated the feeling of despair. So I kept doing it and doing it until I had enough to put in a small book.
It was a very open book for me, very raw, very healing, very emotional but extremely cathartic and what made it even more rewarding is that my words moved others. That also is a humbling experience. I am proud that out of something negative came something good.
7. I believe in being silly – Life is far too short to be serious. We are here for such a short space of time so surely we must squeeze every bit of happiness we can out of it. In order to do that sometimes, we have to be silly. We need to embrace our inner child and let it come out to play as often as we possibly can. I for one am one of the first ones you will find building sandcastles on a beach, dancing in the rain, colouring outside of the lines. Let yourself go a bit. Stop being so serious.
8. I believe in the ability to be able to say enough already! Seriously you have to know when to say no and have the ability to say it. I have struggled with this my whole life. The problem is when you are a kind old soul people latch on and they take advantage and being the softy that you are you let them, and you let them take take take…. You have to learn to stand your ground and pull away from these situations. There is a saying you can not pour from an empty cup and this is what you will end up doing if you don’t start putting yourself and your energy first.
9. I believe that sometimes small gestures can have enormous repercussions. I call it the ripple effect and so do others. Think about the last time someone let you out when you were driving, I bet you then went on to let someone else pull out, and so on and so on. If this happens with just that imagine what it can do if you smiled at a stranger, opened the door for someone, thank someone for their help, etc Do you see where I am going with this? Make a point throughout the day of doing as many good deeds as you can, they don’t have to be massive but they will all be positive and they all will ripple on thanks to something little you did.
10. I believe in love. I believe in love and that you should show it as well as feel it. Love is the light in a dark tunnel next to hope, faith and charity. Don’t take people for granted you don’t know how long you have them for. Show them how much you love them, tell them how much you love them. Spread this love to everyone you possibly can and be loved in return. Love had to be one of the 10 things I believe in how could it not.
Well, I quite enjoyed doing that and I would love to know what you believe in. So why don’t you share with us one or more of the things you believe in. I did my bit. I told you about 10 things that I believe in. So come on… don’t be shy… just one…just one incy wincy little one pleeeeassee